Message from Staff
Our theme in Living Christianly this week is not to harm others – to be kind. There are times in life that we think that life is unfair, we’re being dealt a raw hand. On many occasions the hurt can come as a result of actions of others towards you. It is very easy to respond in a negative way and making the situation even worse. A lot of the time the hurt has come from a communication breakdown. Someone has done or said something that was meant one way and you’ve taken it another way. Or maybe someone has done something that is out of character for their normal behaviour, but it has upset you. They didn’t intend to hurt you, but they have done something that you didn’t like. We see this happen all the time at school.
God tells us all through the bible about not responding to hurts in a negative way. In Romans 12 he tells us:
17 If someone does you wrong, don’t try to pay them back by hurting them. Try to do what everyone thinks is right. 18 Do the best you can to live in peace with everyone. (17-19)
1 Peter 3 says:
Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
A positive response to something hurtful is to try and consider what was going on for the other person that hurt or offended you. I saw a very interesting clip on the net the other day that I shared with the class. A man had taken his young son into the hospital with critical injuries. It seemed to be taking forever for the surgeon to arrive to operate on his son. When the surgeon finally arrived it seemed to the father that he was taking forever to prepare himself for the surgery. Finally, the father couldn’t take it anymore and he berated the surgeon for taking so long to get there and not rushing in to perform the surgery, telling him if it was his son he wouldn’t be mucking around like that. The surgeon smiled and tried to reassure the father that the preparations were necessary and that his son would be OK. When the operation was over the surgeon came out and told the father the operation had been a success and that he had to leave but one of the nurses would be able to explain things to him more fully. This angered the father even more and when the nurse arrived he bitterly complained about the arrogance of the surgeon. The nurse listened and then quietly informed the father that the surgeon was late, as he’d been called away from his own son’s funeral to come in and perform the surgery and he had to leave quickly to be with his family and the gathering afterwards. If only the father had known…
James 1 tells us we must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. Taking the extra bit of time to think about something that has happened rather than reacting to it at the time, is generally a wise course of action. At school we always try to hear both sides of a story from the children involved, before taking a course of action and we like both parties involved to also hear the other person’s perspective. You can see the children suddenly react like the father of the injured boy, when they realise they’ve got the situation wrong or have reacted inappropriately. They have the opportunity then to put things right. If we can teach them to take that extra bit of time, and maybe repay a hurt with an act of kindness, I’m sure they will learn a lesson that will greatly benefit them in life.